"Easy for you to say..."

"Easy for you to say!"  I have said that before and I can tell you for me personally the people I have said this to and the people I have often just thought this about are people who had an easy time being able to say what they said.

This is not about the few people born with a silver spoon in their mouth, this is about the people with a good work ethic, goals and plans they put in place and achieve. 

Unfortunately I am a person whose natural tendency is to analyze every detail of conversations.  I often insert things I have heard a person say before, into the conversation when it was never said and maybe never implied.  I get angry with people when they have not said anything to anger me.  I do this simply based on what I THINK they are thinking....which is based on past reactions and situations.  Today I found myself doing this nasty habit yet again and in my mind I spoke for someone by saying... " Easy for you to say." in response to my comment.  At that moment my thoughts went to.."No, NO, No it is NOT easy for me to say.  I just made different choices than you.  I worked my tail off for someone to be able to look at the surface picture and say " Easy for you to say."  Then I was reminded of all the times I have actually said this to people.  I recalled the faces of some of them and thought on how they just chose different than I did.   One of these people may say to me, " You should really go on vacation! You could really use it.  I know it helped me to take a break and get away."   to which my internal response would be " Easy for you to say, you have money to take a vacation. You don't know hard it is for us."  Well the truth may be they DON'T know how hard it is for us, but the truth is also I don't know how hard it was for them to get to that point of being able to take vacations. How much they sacrificed during the years I was "living large".  On my path I worked my tail to the bone, but I didn't go without to save of a rainy day, I had all kinds of clothes, I had a nice car with a big payment, a mortgage I couldn't handle and I loved to eat out.  I invested NOTHING.  I spent the years I should have been saving for a rainy day living like I did have a silver spoon in my mouth.  So times have been hard...but they are hard because I made poor choices.  I have no right saying something is easy for someone else, just as others have no right to say the same about me.

In this world in general we have eyes to see with...to take the steps we need to take to move when we need to get out of the way etc.  But often we use our eyes to focus on each other and see where the other one is going.  Perhaps if we kept our eyes on our own path we would have a better path.  Perhaps our time would be spent more wisely and perhaps we wouldn't think we needed all the extras we think we need.  Just food for thought, and I'm thinking.

Matthew 7:1

[ Do Not Judge ] “Do not judge, so that you won’t be judged.

Proverbs 26:17 (AMP)

¹⁷ He who, passing by, stops to meddle with strife that is none of his business is like one who takes a dog by the ears.